Sunday, November 8, 2009

Malaysian women freezing their eggs and delaying motherhood

It's just not advisable

I came across this article and found it kinda interesting and might possibly able to open the minds of those professional women in their perception of late marriage and motherhood status. Since plunging into working life wont provide ample time for them to personally contemplate on their future condition, most of women opt to delay seeking soul partner, and even if they found their own, they may want to wait to be the mother due to reasons. Without the consciousness of what consequences they would face and with the traditionally habit of keeping waiting over the period, they are actually exposed to unbalanced condition of life at last. This is not what I say but what has been hurled out by one of middle-aged Malaysian woman in her writing. I pick up and quote this story here and it is simple, short but brings acute message to ponder.^_*


From: Helen, New Sunday Times, November 8 2009

DON’T play with other Mother Nature. That is my advice to women of child-bearing age who think that science and modern technology in fertility treatment is answer to everything. Don’t put off pregnancy until a later age for selfish. I DID THAT and REGRET putting off-child bearing until my biological clock sounded the alarm.


A 30-plus, firmly grounded after a stressful career, a husband and everything else except a baby to complete the family, I went for fertility treatment. It was not easy. There were plenty if tears, hormonal injections and expensive medical fees.
When I was younger, I chose not to get pregnant and even terminated one. Five years after I stopped fertility treatment, I was diagnosed with cancer of the uterus. For those who have no choice but to freeze their eggs for medical purposes, it is an option with no guarantee. But don’t take the easy way out, thinking that “since others are freezing their eggs for later use, I should also do it”.

Balancing your life with family life is a better option than delaying motherhood.



And nak tambah sket.


No matter how hard you focus on your stints and chase for the money to survive, put your family at the top of pinnacle. It is our obligation to treat them as 1st priority rather than anything else.

So now, you may think and keep pondering yourself what to do and what to choose. KAWEN?? Bajet x de la, haha I think most guys are always thinking about this,badly. Marriage is a matter of bulks. Surely this moment, I mean at our current age, tantalising of seeking partner is a major feeling engulfed inside our brains (not all la), haha but the constraint is....
Mak aiiii sampai 15 ribu!!! Dah2 aku xnk kawen, mane nk kaut duit byk ni, kawen kt siam sudah~

Uups, girls pls dont put your price up too much, we realize that diploma and degree educated ones will cost the least Rm10k..amboi nk kawen pon siap ade education level assessment,KPI siap.. if lawyer, doc, eng means the cost would fold up double or triple la..no no, this is not the way of Islam, this is the trend of crumbled culture inside Malaysian minds. Lets annihilate this awkward mind and pls tune into proper one. I strongly believe the success of partnership is the complementary to each other, it is not about the money, physical appearances, family background and etc. Courtesy, attitude, good soul, strong religion uphold are the KPIs in seeking the 'calon'. This is modern day, somehow different people judge from different angles, views and thoughts. Ehhh belom keje lg laa dh pk nk kawenn..daahh pegi belaja, degree pon belom abes nk pk pasal kawen. Thinking about finishing my study and not yet receive any work offer eliminates my mood to write on marriage issue much longer,haha. Dush dush!! Lempang pipi senirik..chow2,wsalam ^^




Alahai suwitnye,DUSH!!da2,berangan!!





17 comments:

Hazwan said...

haihh...
dh ready nk kawen ke wan??
haha

arelong said...

haha yela bro, da nk tunang da ni, nnt aku anta invitation card, rumah mu dekat jerk kan, dok mari siap la,heheh

tulipzstar said...

along!!! sy nak kawen hihaaa...!
kekg bile2 sy ato kad eah =p

yup! money is not verything
yg penting how to comfort each other in the right way =p
blaja dluuu..yosh!
hihaaaa

arelong said...

amboi excited nk kawen!~ bagus ade cita2, jgn lupe jemput ea, zaman org nikah belaka lening,hahaha

ejathelmy said...

bolok ah mu long
wkakakkaka

Unknown said...

::very nice entry dude..tu ah..tunang ngan org dekat cmane member2 yg jauh nk dtg jugakk..aaaa kempunan ar ktrg::

Hazwan said...

bila nk btunang tu??

Unknown said...

::lg 2 thun kn?after dat girl abis stdy..aaaaa ntah mane2 ktrg duk lg 2 tahun..yg kt UK nnt jgn lupe anto kad gk,fb pn ok::

arelong said...

hazwan: guro jerk boh, xdop eh tunang2, calon pon blom ade..hahaha..tggu mu abes grad dulu la

chocolate: awak ni nujum pak belalang eh,x pk pon lg la pasai ni sume ~wacaaaa dush dush ^^

Unknown said...

::haha kn betol..encik hazwan abis grad maybe in 2-3 years kot..haaa nujum2 xmain seh zmn skrg ni..cyber kot::

Hazwan said...

hek eleh..
hok aku nmpok sokmo2 tu..
sape??
keh3

arelong said...

hok ane se boh? hok kat perak ke kt terengganu? ke kt KL? hahahaha..lek lu bro,mude g la

Norman Naim said...

thx long 4 dA 'draft' bajet~ =P

zaty said...

haha..smoga dicepatkan jodoh...ameen!

arelong said...

norman: ye norman, mmg aku taruk bajet tu special utk ko,seyes2 ^^

zaty: amin,trimas zaty, nnt sy jemput eh,wahaha =P

Anonymous said...

huhu..nk bt anak pn kne kawen ker??:D...

arelong said...

eh x perlu la anonymous, tgk kuceng, kambeng, ayam, itik..diorg x kawen pon dpt anak gak..haa..kalo betol2 org kawen la, kalo bukan org tu..hurmm xreti nk wat kenurik,sbb tu x kawen,hehehe..mankok hang! kawen la =P

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